If you feel bad for ghosting someone, you may feel that they did not deserve to be ghosted by you. Perhaps, in retrospect, ghosting them was too harsh. Maybe they are genuinely a nice person. Or, perhaps they did nothing wrong to justify you ghosting them without explanation. Another reason one may feel bad for ghosting someone is if it’s apparent that the ghostee was seriously hurt by being ghosted.
If you feel bad for ghosting someone, consider why you feel this way
Why do you feel bad for ghosting this person? If it’s because you wanted an easy way to cut them off without having to deal with them face-to-face, then that’s fair. Ghosting is a far from ideal way of ending a relationship. If you’ve now realized that your actions were insensitive, then at least you have some self-awareness and empathy.
However, it’s a different situation if the person you ghosted was toxic or their actions made you feel insecure or threatened in any way. If they were a difficult person then you may have felt ghosting them was the only way to cut them out of your life. It’s possible that you feel bad about ghosting them because you wouldn’t ordinarily end a relationship like that but you felt that you had no choice. If this is you then do not feel bad for ghosting them.
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I feel bad for ghosting someone, should I reach out to them?
It can be very frustrating for someone who’s been ghosted when a ghoster re-appears. Depending on the relationship the two of you had, they may have been seriously heartbroken and required a long time to gain closure. If you reach out to them because you feel bad for ghosting them, think clearly about what you are trying to achieve by doing this.
- Are you reaching out to restart the relationship?
- Do you want to apologize?
- Will reaching out cause more harm than good?
If you genuinely feel bad for ghosting someone and want to reach out to them, avoid sending half-hearted messages like “hey, what’s up?” or “how’s it going?” that gloss over the fact that you ghosted them. This may come across as you thinking you did nothing wrong by ghosting them. Furthermore, it may suggest that you think you can pick up and drop this person whenever you please.
If you do reach out, you should not expect that the other person will be happy to hear from you, let alone reply. However, if you are keen to send an apology for ghosting them, then it’s important to acknowledge what you did and express that you are truly sorry. It’s possible the other person may not even read your apology let alone forgive you. However, apologizing may make you feel slightly better about yourself as you’ve at least owned up to your mistake and tried to put things right.
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