Has a guy who ghosted you in the past suddenly popped out of nowhere to send you a “happy birthday” message? It’s usually nice to receive birthday wishes on your special day. However, it probably seems a bit odd that he a. remembered your birthday and b. bothered to reach out. You may be thinking to yourself “the guy who ghosted me wished me happy birthday, what does he want? Should I even reply?”
The guy who ghosted me wished me happy birthday. Does he want to talk to me again?
He’s likely just bored
Firstly, don’t think too much into it. Many people are in the habit of wishing others happy birthday (it may have popped up on his Facebook feed) even if you’re not a part of their life. He may have simply remembered it was your birthday and thought it would nice to send you a quick message.
It’s certainly possible he does think about you from time to time. He may even feel bad about ghosting you. But so what? Does it change the fact that he previously cut you off without explanation? Realistically, he’s just bored and thought it would be interesting to send you a birthday message to see if you’d reply. He may even be hoping to ease his conscience by sending you a birthday message.
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Ask yourself: do you want anything to do with this guy after he ghosted you?
You have zero obligation to reply to this guy. After all, he’s the one who ended the relationship by ghosting you. If you want to be polite and say “thank you” then that’s ok, too. However, if you’re thinking of starting up a conversation and asking him how he’s doing, then ask yourself if there’s any point. Do you actually care about how he’s doing? Do you want him in your life at all?
If you do decide to chat to him following his ‘happy birthday’ message, do not build up any expectations. This guy has previously shown himself to be flaky. Just treat it as small talk with someone who you used to know and take things from there. It’s unlikely he has much to offer you unless he proves otherwise.
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