If you’re not currently in a relationship, you may be having to deal with being criticized for being single. Even if you are enjoying all the perks of being single, it can sometimes be hard not to let people’s comments bother you. Unfortunately, many people seem to think it’s fine to judge other people’s relationship status even though it’s none of their business. It can be especially hard when deep down you are looking for a proper relationship but unable to find what you want.
Being criticized for being single can come in many forms. It may include remarks from friends and family, such as “why are you still single?” Or, people may comment that you are “too picky” while shaking their heads. The fact of the matter is that there is nothing ‘wrong’ with being single and you have done nothing to deserve people’s criticism.
Other people do not know your reality
The truth is that although people find it easy to pass judgment on your life, they have no clue what your reality is really like. You are a unique individual with your own values and goals in life. Perhaps you are content being single at present. Maybe it’s not a great time for you to be in a relationship as you have a lot going on in life. Or, maybe the people you’ve met are just not your type.
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It’s ok to have not met the right person yet
It’s likely that the people you’ve met are simply not right for you and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Finding the right person is a process that can take time and requires patience. Sure, you need to be open to meeting new people. However, there’s no point in putting pressure on yourself to meet someone. All you can do is be yourself, live your life and put yourself in situations where you can meet someone new.
Remember: It’s far better off to be single than in the wrong relationship
Even if you are looking for a relationship, it’s important to stay true to yourself when choosing a partner. To many people, being single may not be ideal. However, it’s far better to be alone than in the wrong relationship. The whole point of being with someone is to bring happiness to each other’s lives. Being with someone who you are not compatible with simply for the sake of it is a sure recipe for disaster.
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Spend time with people who support you and lift you up, not those who question what’s ‘wrong’ with you
Being criticized for being single can easily make one feel unhappy or confused. Maybe all the people around you are already coupled up and it seems that you’re the only one who’s single. You are better off spending time with people who are open-minded and supportive. People who want the best for you will want you to do what makes you feel happy and fulfilled. They will not make negative comments about you being single.
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Trust your gut instinct
When it comes to relationships, there is no clear path. Often, all we can do is trust our gut instinct. Someone may be really into you but you are simply not attracted to them. Or, you may have dated someone who turned out to be completely different to who you thought they were. Someone may be perfect on paper but just not right for you at all. All you can do is stay true to yourself.
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