If you’re feeling embarrassed after being ghosted by someone you were dating, chances are, you did not see it coming at all. Maybe you felt that things were going great between the two of you and there were zero signs that they didn’t feel the same way. That’s the thing about ghosting. It tends to happen unexpectedly and can feel as though the rug has been pulled from under one’s feet. It’s common to feel a combination of embarrassment, shame, regret and even a loss of self-esteem after being ghosted.
Why may someone feel embarrassed after being ghosted?
Feeling embarrassed after being ghosted can be due to several reasons. You may be more likely to feel embarrassment if, during your relationship, you:
- Felt the relationship between you was going well and was confident they were into you
- Put a lot of trust into the other person and confided in them
- Invested a lot of time and emotion into the relationship
- Gone out of your way to show the other person how much you cared
- Viewed the relationship as having a future
- Had told friends (and/or) family about your relationship
Being ghosted can feel embarrassing because you may feel that you put a lot into the relationship only to be heartlessly dropped by the other person. Basically, you were more into them than they were into you. Furthermore, you may feel foolish for not seeing it coming. What can be even worse is if you’d already gone public about your relationship, only to get ghosted.
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If you’re feeling embarrassed after being ghosted, here’s why you shouldn’t
It may be difficult to switch off any negative emotions that you are feeling after being ghosted. However, there’s nothing to be gained by dwelling on what happened. Here are 5 things to remember if you find yourself feeling embarrassed after being ghosted.
- The person who ghosted you does not deserve your time or heartbreak
- It’s not your fault that you didn’t see it coming. They may have absolutely led you to believe that they were really into you before ghosting you.
- It’s normal to invest time and emotion into someone if you really like them so there’s no need to regret that. Unfortunately, in love and in life, sometimes things do not work out the way we thought they would. But that’s ok.
- There’s no need to tell other people that you were ghosted. You can simply say that the two of you are no longer seeing each other and leave it at that.
- The right person will appreciate you as much as you appreciate them and will absolutely not ghost you.
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