If you’ve recently been unblocked by a girl, this may have come as a surprise. Perhaps, when she blocked you, you’d already assumed that the relationship between you was 100% over and she never wanted to hear from you again. Understandably, you may be now wondering “why did she unblock me?” Clearly, this girl is sending mixed signals. How significant is it that she’s unblocked you? Does it mean that she wants to speak to you again?
Contents
- Why it’s so confusing when a girl unblocks you
- If you’re trying to figure out “why did she unblock me?” firstly take a moment to consider why she blocked you in the first place.
- Wondering ‘why did she unblock me?’ Here are 8 reasons why.
- If you’ve been unblocked by a girl, here are 3 important things to remember
- What should I do if a girl has unblocked me?
- Conclusion
Why it’s so confusing when a girl unblocks you
It can be confusing when a girl who’s previously cut you out of her life by blocking you then turns around and unblocks you. In unblocking you, she has made a conscious decision to allow communication between the two of you.
If you’ve been unblocked by a girl, you may be asking yourself the following questions:
- What does she want? Does she want a relationship with me?
- Does she still care about me?
- Does she miss me?
- Is she going to reach out to me? Or is she waiting for me to message her first?
- Has she been thinking about me a lot? Does it really mean anything?
If a girl unblocks you, it shows that you have been on her mind. At the very minimum, you crossed her mind momentarily. Whether or not she’s been thinking about you frequently is debatable. You’ll probably never know unless she tells you so.
If you’re trying to figure out “why did she unblock me?” firstly take a moment to consider why she blocked you in the first place.
There are many possible reasons why a girl may block someone, including:
- Being mad or upset e.g. after an argument
- Finding the other person annoying
- Disliking the other person’s personality
- Being offended
- Not being interested romantically
If you have an inkling of why she blocked you in the first place, you’ll better be able to identify the reason(s) why she has now unblocked you.
You may also consider how long she blocked you for. Consider the following 2 scenarios:
- Scenario A: A girl has an argument with a guy she’s been dating and blocks him for 48 hours before unblocking him.
- Scenario B: A girl goes on a couple of dates with a guy. She blocks him unexpectedly. She then unblocks him several months later.
Clearly, these are 2 very different situations and her actions (blocking and unblocking) send quite different messages. In scenario A, the girl blocked the guy after conflict and for short time only. In scenario B, it’s quite clear that she wanted to end the relationship and for her to unblock him months later in is a bit more confusing.
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Wondering ‘why did she unblock me?’ Here are 8 reasons why.
Reason 1. She’s no longer mad
If this girl blocked you after a bust-up between the two of you, chances are, she was angry or upset. Blocking you may have been her way of giving you the silent treatment to express her annoyance. It may have been a kneejerk reaction in the heat of the moment. However, it’s possible that she’s now cooled down and is no longer mad. As a result, she unblocked you because she’s open to speaking to you again. She may even be expecting an apology.
Reason 2. She doesn’t know what she wants
This girl may have blocked and then unblocked you because she is confused about what she wants. Basically, she can’t make up her mind about whether she wants you in her life or not. There may be some things she likes about you but others she doesn’t. As a result, she’s conflicted about whether to have a relationship with you or not. Bear in mind that a girl who doesn’t know what she wants may easily block you again.
Reason 3. She’s bored
If this girl is bored with her social life (or dating life), she may have unblocked you because she wants someone to talk to. Maybe she’s newly single and is seeking attention or re-assurance. Or, maybe her friends are especially busy and she’s suddenly found her social calendar empty. As a result, she unblocked you because she wants someone to message her.
Reason 4. She misses you
If it’s been a while since this girl blocked you i.e. weeks, months or even longer, she may have unblocked you because she misses you. Maybe she’s been looking back at your relationship with rose-tinted glasses and misses your companionship.
If you dated, it does not necessarily mean that she wants to rekindle the romance between you. She might just want to be friends. It’s even possible that her missing you is a temporary feeling that quickly fades once she snaps back to reality.
Reason 5. She wants you to view her social media posts to show off about something
Are you wondering “why did she unblock me on Instagram?”
A girl who has unblocked you on Instagram may have done so because she wants you to view her stories and show off about her life. Maybe she’s recently been travelling and wants you to see her pics. Or, maybe she’s dating a new guy or even gotten married and wants you to know she’s moved on.
She wants to send the message “I’m better off without you”
After a breakup, many people will make a conscious effort to live life to the fullest in order to move on from the relationship. This may involve socializing more, partying, travelling, dating new people or even taking up new hobbies. The list goes on.
Is this girl is the type who enjoys posting enviable snapshots and videos of her life? If so, unblocking you on Instagram may have been a strategic move to show you that she’s doing absolutely fine without you in her life.
Reason 6. She wants you to be a backup guy
If this girl thinks that you may still have feelings for her, she may have less than sincere intentions in unblocking you. She might know that if you have a soft spot for her, she can easily restart the relationship with you. It’s possible that she’s interested in another guy or is dating around but sees you as a convenient backup.
Reason 7. In retrospect, she feels that blocking you was overly harsh
If this girl has done some reflection during the time you’ve been apart, she may have concluded that blocking you was harsh or unnecessary. She may have unblocked you because she felt that, in retrospect, there was no need to go as far as to block you.
She may even feel that based on what happened between the two of you, it’s pretty unlikely you’ll ever reach out to her anyway. Therefore, even by unblocking you, it’s not as though she’ll ever need to deal with you again.
Reason 8. She wants the ego boost of you a. noticing that she unblocked you and b. contacting her first
Unfortunately, some girls may unblock someone due to convoluted reasons that the average person may not necessarily think of. If this girl is self-absorbed, egotistical or manipulative, she may have unblocked you in order to gain validation that you still care.
If she unblocked you on a messaging app such as Whatsapp, this means that you may have been checking her profile to even realize that she’d unblocked you. Following this, if you then reach out to her, she may enjoy the fact that you messaged her first.
If you’ve been unblocked by a girl, here are 3 important things to remember
- Her unblocking you means that she may be open to communicating with you
- It’s possible she wants you to reach out (but then again, maybe not)
- It does not mean that she wants to get back together
It’s difficult to draw any conclusions about what this girl wants if she has unblocked you but not reached out. The only things you know for certain are that you crossed her mind and she is not averse to hearing from you. However, bear in mind that she only had to click a single button to unblock you.
Unblocking you does not constitute her making effort to restart a relationship with you. Nor does it mean that she suddenly respects you or values you. Unless she reaches out and makes it clear what she is seeking, then the single action of her unblocking you is frankly meaningless.
What should I do if a girl has unblocked me?
If a girl has unblocked you, you may be unsure about what to do next. Most likely, you’ll be deciding whether to reach out or do nothing.
You can start by asking yourself the following:
Question 1. How do I feel about her blocking me in the first place?
If you felt that her blocking you was harsh or unfair then it’s clear that her behaviour does not make you feel accepted or valued. In this situation, you may be leaning towards doing nothing after learning that she’s unblocked you. After all, why should you make the effort to contact a girl who’s already cut you out of her life once before?
If, on the other hand, you feel that she had decent reasons for blocking you e.g. you were rude or insensitive towards her, then you may be considering reaching out to her. This may be the case if you are keen to make amends or clear any misunderstandings between the two of you.
Question 2. Do I want a relationship with this girl at all?
Is this girl someone that you want in your life at all? If the answer is ‘no,’ then there’s no need to speculate any further about why she unblocked you. It’s unlikely you’ll get to the bottom of it. It does not really matter why she unblocked you. You can simply ignore the fact that she unblocked you and forget about her.
On the other hand, if you are interested in letting her back into your life, then think carefully about how to proceed. Frankly speaking, unless you did something that truly warranted her blocking you, this girl does not have a great track record. The fact that she blocked you shows that she’s not that keen on you. Furthermore, she’s clearly not willing to communicate openly and honestly with you.
Conclusion
In conclusion, there could be a variety of reasons why this girl unblocked you. It could be simply because she’s going through a dry spell in her social life and is hoping you’ll message her. Or, it could be because she’s cooled down after a conflict between the two of you and is willing to talk. It could even be because she’s looked back at your relationship with rose-tinted glasses and missed you momentarily.
Regardless of why she unblocked you, it really does not mean that much unless she makes the effort to reach out to you. You’ll probably never understand why she unblocked you out of the blue. However, what’s more important is that you decide whether you even want to communicate with this girl. If the answer is ‘no’ then there’s little point trying to decipher her actions. It’s simply not worth your time wondering ‘why did she unblock me?’
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